My own battle with an abusive mother

When we think of moms, most people think of loving people who want to do nothing but help their children. That was not my case growing up. So when someone tells me I should have contact with my mom, I shake my head. My mom has never been the best person. She is one of the worst people I know. This woman was called evil by a therapist that I was seeing at the time. I don't have any grudges against her. People think that if you don't talk to your mom then you did something wrong. That is not always the case. I was emotionally abused. I was convinced that this was normal until I started talking to this therapist about my problems. She made me realize that it was not normal. She made me realize that I was relying on this woman that felt like the need to keep me down. Abuse of any kind is not alright. If you are a parent and you feel like the need to blame your child for every problem you have, then you have to grow up and be an adult. Your child isn't the reason why you smoke, or you can't keep a man. They have their own problems to worry about, like homework and what college they want to get into. It is not selfish of them to go out into the real world and find out who they are. Even more so when you tell them that your partner is more important to them, that you would rather give up their love for your partner. You also don't care when your partner belittles your child and tells them that they are nothing, and that their dead father was nothing? That is not something that a mother should put up with. Most mothers I know would not depend on said man. They would tell him to get out of her life because they love their children more than they need someone to love them. Which the love that my mother is getting from her husband isn't what I call love. If that is what she wants then that is her, and I have no problem with that because she is not my problem. I can proudly say I don't love my mom. There are only a few examples that I have put down, but I don't feel like posting everything this woman has done to me. I am not dwelling on this. This is being blogged about to show people what is emotional abuse can be. I wish I could put up every terrible thing that she has ever said to me. This one I will never forget. She told me the morning of my 17th Birthday that she wished I was never born. Who does that? She also told me when I was eight that my father was dead. Well he died when I was fourteen, and he was back in my life when I was ten. What a bitch. Anyway those are a few things I will never forget. I am speaking out against child abuse. Share this blog and share my story.